Almost as soon as the Christmas displays come down after New Year’s, stores and online advertisers begin to market Valentine’s Day as the next major holiday. For those recently divorced, being reminded of Valentine’s Day can feel as if the whole world is paired in a romantic relationship. Divorce is one of the most significant life transitions and it can be overwhelming and stressful. However, there are things that you can do to mitigate the day and help get through the accompanying difficult feelings.
Tips for Coping
Anxiety and feelings of loneliness are common emotions in the aftermath of a divorce. Even when the divorce is for the best, due to conflict or betrayal, being alone after being part of a pair is an adjustment. Valentine’s Day, with its idealized themes of love and commitment, can be a particular triggering for anyone who is not in a relationship.
Remember that Valentine’s Day is just one day. While the feeling of being surrounded by the ideals of romantic love on this holiday is valid, it is important to keep in mind that many others are also feeling alone and isolated. Staying busy and planning alternate activities with friends can be helpful. Avoiding social media and accepting that the feelings of sadness will pass are helpful to coping.
Do something for yourself on this day. While Valentine’s Day typically involves romantic gifts and gestures from a partner, take the time to reward oneself and do something enjoyable that is out of the ordinary. You are important and deserve to be gentle to yourself; doing an activity that is not something you usually do provides positive reinforcement and a distraction. Some newly single people may take a trip, make a special purchase, or choose an activity rooted in self-care, such as a dinner or a spa appointment.
Another way to take the focus off the romantic part of the holiday is to do something kind for others. Taking the time to do show gratitude for family members, children, or friends can be rewarding. Psychology tells us that practicing gratitude is healthy and provides long term emotional benefits to the giver.
Remember that your divorced state is not necessarily permanent. While the feelings of loss and being down can be acute, these diminish and one can develop a new routine and identity. Because divorce remains a significant life-changing experience in other ways, it is key to have the guidance of a skilled Towson divorce lawyer.
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If you are contemplating filing for divorce, the Towson divorce lawyers at Huesman, Jones & Miles, LLC will represent you during this difficult time. Please complete our online form or call us at 443-589-0150 for a free consultation. With office locations in Hunt Valley and Towson, Maryland, we serve clients throughout Baltimore, Baltimore County, Bel Air, Bentley Springs, Columbia, Freeland, Hereford, Hampton, Westminster, Essex, Monkton, Sparks Glencoe, Parkton, Phoenix, Pikesville, White Hall, Carroll County, Harford County, and Howard County.
