Whether you want to accept it or not, your ex-spouse will eventually move on after your divorce. If you are looking to get along with your spouse after you have divorced, and especially if you have children, you will have to learn to get along with the new person in their life.
If you want to continue a friendship with your ex, it is important to keep certain things in mind, and to open discussions to keep the most copacetic situation possible for all parties involved.
Exes Can Get Along
Despite the potential for hurt feelings and the possibility that many feelings still linger, it is possible to maintain a relationship and even get along with your ex. This takes a lot of open communication and respect, and even more time and focus, but it is something that is attainable. The first step is making sure you are both on the same page.
If one of you would like to continue a friendship but the other does not, there most likely is no chance for the two of you to be successful in this new relationship. However, if both of you would like a new friendship but neither knows the other is feeling the same way, the same outcome will result. Work towards getting along and let the other know that you would like to make this work, even if your marriage did not.
Discuss Your Ex with your Significant Other
If you want your new significant other to accept your ex, you will have to explain to them why it is important. Rather than hoping the feelings of jealousy will fade, having a proactive and open discussion about your past marriage, why it ended, and what is driving you to continue a relationship with this person will help the new person in your life warm up to the old one.
If children are involved, it may be helpful to let your ex know as soon as possible that there is a new person in your life, especially if this person will be around your children. Including them in the decision-making for your child will help keep the peace with your ex and give an opportunity to make the new person in your life feel more welcome and part of things.
Discuss Your Significant Other With Your Ex
Be transparent. Rather than avoiding the subject, ease into the new territory slowly, but be sure not to leave each other out when something important happens, such as a major relationship. In order to have a full friendship, it is important to treat each other with respect.
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