Divorce often comes with many changes, such as transitioning into a different career, moving to a new house, and sharing custody of the children. Parents who are going through these changes may also be concerned about how to maintain a healthy relationship with their children during this time. There are several ways parents can reassure their children and maintain healthy relationships with them after divorce.
Divorce can be confusing for children. They may not understand why their parents are unable to reconcile and may even feel guilty for the separation. Divorcing parents should explain to their children that they are not to blame for the divorce and reassure them that they always have someone to talk to about their concerns. When parents speak openly and keep the lines of communication open, children are more likely to come to them for advice and support.
Even parties to the most contentious divorce should remain respectful to one another, at least for the sake of their children. Speaking ill of the other parent when they are not around can make children feel as if they must choose sides. Parents should therefore attempt to cooperate with each other without putting the children in the middle of their adult conversations or disagreements. Setting a good example helps foster healthy relationships with children after divorce.
Children require security and stability to thrive. Divorcing parents should assure their children that they can count on something stable during this disruptive time. Being respectful of the other parent’s household rules and sticking to a routine can help foster that critical sense of stability, as can allowing children to spend quality time with each parent. A structured routine, such as going to bed at a set time or doing certain chores can also help provide children with the stability they need.
It is important for parents to be a source of emotional support for their children during and after divorce. Research shows that many children adjust to divorce well, with no lasting negative effects on their mental health, provided they have the support they need. In a 2012 meta-study, a child development expert and Cambridge University professor found that while children benefit from parents who get along and who are emotionally responsive, those parents need not be married or even live in the same house.
When children are struggling to cope with the divorce, it may be beneficial to get some outside assistance. A trusted family member, therapist, or other expert can help children adjust and deal with the impact of the divorce. They may be acting out due to anxiety or other mental health issues, which parents should address as soon as possible to avoid potentially long-term effects.
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