During divorce, it is easy to get caught up in anger, sadness, and fear. These are all reasonable emotions when you are coming to terms with a marriage that no longer works. Yet at this challenging time, it is important not to let these feelings keep you from making smart legal and financial decisions about your future. The following are some of the most common mistakes people make during divorce and how you can avoid them.
Letting Anger Take Over
There is a reason you are getting divorced. Maybe there are quite a few. But now is the time to move forward and focus on the adventure that lies ahead. Dwelling in your anger only keeps you mired to the past and leads you to make decisions based on anger instead of healing. While it is not always easy, try to separate your feelings about your spouse from the significant practical decisions ahead of you.
Moving Out of the Marital Home
Leaving the family home before the divorce is finalized can have serious ramifications for child custody as well as your rights regarding the marital home. Family courts are also more likely to leave children in the home they are most familiar with. If you leave, your ex may be more likely to get custody. Leaving the home may also impose a financial burden on you by paying rent while still being obligated on the mortgage. On the other hand, if you do not leave, you may not have grounds to file for divorce.
Putting the Children in the Middle
Children of divorce have to process their own feelings and need time and space to heal and move forward with lots support from loved ones. They should be insulated from their parents’ frustration and anger and never be made to choose a side. Manipulating children to get back at an ex can cause children emotional trauma and pain that follows them for years to come.
Refusing to Compromise
Simply put – you are not going to get everything you want in the divorce. Through mediation or in the courts, decisions are made about alimony, child support, custody, and property. They may not all go your way. Compromising in some areas is necessary to move the process along, preserve the peace, and coparent effectively if children are involved.
Choosing the Wrong Divorce Lawyer
To ensure that someone is fighting for the things that are really important to you, choose a divorce lawyer who takes the time necessary to understand your goals and priorities and works to help make them possible. Your lawyer is your advocate in mediation and in court, always working to protect the best interests of you and your children. You should have a good comfort level with your divorce lawyer and feel able to talk openly about your situation knowing that you are being heard.
Baltimore County Divorce Lawyers at Huesman, Jones & Miles, LLC Keep you From Making Common Divorce Mistakes
The Baltimore County divorce lawyers with Huesman, Jones & Miles, LLC have extensive experience managing complex, high-stake divorces, and will not let you make these common divorce mistakes. With sound legal guidance and personal attention, you can make smart choices during divorce to lead to a bright future.
A free, no-obligation consultation with a Baltimore County divorce lawyer is your first step. Call 443-589-0150 or complete the online contact form to schedule yours today in our Hunt Valley or Towson, Maryland locations. Huesman, Jones & Miles, LLC proudly represent clients in and around the areas of Baltimore, Baltimore County, Bel Air, Bentley Springs, Columbia, Freeland, Hereford, Hampton, Westminster, Essex, Monkton, Sparks Glencoe, Parkton, Phoenix, Pikesville, White Hall, Carroll County, Harford County, and Howard County.