Facing the end of a marriage can be daunting, even when both parties wish to part amicably. Divorce is a long and costly process that can be especially complex if there are children involved, so there are many things one should be aware of before starting.
The first thing to consider may sound obvious or trite, but be certain that a divorce is what you want. You may have thrown the word around and threatened a divorce, but once you have crossed a line, be sure of the step you are taking.
When you are certain that divorce is your only option, do not try to do it on your own. You may save money up front, but legal and other mistakes you make along the way can cost more than the money you think you saved. Find a lawyer whose style and manner suits you. This is someone you will need to work closely with for many months. If you are planning on an amicable divorce, but you have an aggressive lawyer, things may not work out the way you want them to.
It is best to have a divorce lawyer for financial and tax guidance, and if possible, a therapist for your emotional needs. Each of these professionals can provide you with expert advice in their field.
Educate Yourself About the Divorce Process
Start educating yourself about the process of divorce so that you know what to expect. Set goals for the outcome you are trying to achieve so that you and your lawyer can make a plan for achieving them. It is recommended to gather financial documents so that you have your own copies of everything you need and to run credit reports to get a clear picture of your financial standing. You may also want to safeguard personal items like family heirlooms or photos that are irreplaceable. It is impossible to predict what may end up as collateral damage during the divorce process.
Any negotiating that can take place between you and your spouse will be beneficial to you in the end. Consider other options before taking your divorce to court. See if mediation, a collaborative divorce, or alternative dispute resolution option can work for you. Once you are in court, you can expect a long and costly battle.
If you have children, it is best to put their needs first. Sometimes that may seem easier said than done when you are in the middle of a divorce. While your marriage may be ending, you will both always be parents to your children. You will still have to see each other at school events and various functions and you do not want to have to look back on your behavior regarding child custody with regret.
Above all, take care of yourself during this difficult time. Sleeping and eating well will help you make better decisions. Know that the divorce process does not last forever, life moves on and will be better.
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At Huesman, Jones & Miles, LLC, our Towson divorce lawyers are experienced in all aspects of family law and can also assist you with mediation if you prefer. Call 443-589-0150 or contact us online to schedule a free and confidential consultation. We have offices in Hunt Valley and Towson to serve residents of Maryland.