Every family has its up and down moments. Bringing two families together under one roof also has its own special joys and challenges. It is a process that takes time and patience as new relationships blossom and grow.
It is important to allow new relationships within the blended family time to grow. You and your spouse are a new couple and you may have new stepchildren that you want to know. Concentrate on individual relationships by setting time aside to spend alone with each child doing activities that they choose. Try to have a set day with 15-30 minutes reserved just for the two of you. Remember, as you spend time with your stepchild to learn more about them, they are also observing you to see what you are like and what makes you tick. Your time alone is a safe space for both of you to express yourselves and build a strong foundation for a loving relationship.
By the same token, you will need to plan for alone time with your biological children to help them through the changes. Making a date to spend time together can help them adjust to their new family situation while reminding them of your special bond.
Moreover, do not forget to reserve special time for you and your spouse without the kids. You may feel obligated to spend your time making sure the kids are comfortable and see how they are adjusting. Your relationship needs its own nurturing, too.
Try to create rituals for your blended family – games, sports, outings – whatever turns out to be common ground for all of you to have fun together. Fun is the key here as laughter can break down the worst tensions and relieve the day’s stress. These rituals will hopefully quickly turn into family traditions.
A blended family usually means some back and forth between households. Transitioning from one home to another can be stressful for kids. Always be respectful of the other parent and keep personal feelings out of interactions with children. Allow extra time on transition days so that if kids become emotional you have time to listen and be there for them as they express their feelings. Having their feelings validated can make a big difference in how the rest of the day progresses.
Be patient as your new family finds its footing and its own special bonds. Every family is a work in progress, blended or not, and the rewards are well worth the effort.
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