For parents determining whether or not they will stay together for the kids or divorce to reduce conflict in front of their children, the decision is among the most stressful choices. Studies over the years have reported different information on whether staying together for the kids is a good or a bad idea.
A new article, “Conflict or Divorce? Does Parental Conflict and/or Divorce Increase the Likelihood of Adult Children’s Cohabiting and Marital Dissolution?” by Constance T. Gager, Scott T. Yabiku, and Miriam R. Linver has shed more light on the issue that has been hotly contested over the years, but has shown some of the areas in which information is lacking. For instance, studies have primarily been conducted on children of parents who experienced divorce in the family versus those who remained in an intact family unit.
A substantial sample error has occurred as a result. Rather than comparing the children whose parents stayed together in an environment that is considered toxic, the study compared what is considered a healthy family environment to children that went through conflict prior to the divorce. Because of this, links between subjects can only truly be considered casual.
This new study aims to resolve at least some of these sample biases. In the study that looked at the more appropriate sample groups, findings report that children of divorce are more likely to later divorce as adults. However, there is not much information on what this data means. For instance, it could mean the children saw that the family unit was improved by the break up. It could also mean children sought after the same abusive or unhealthy relationships they observed. If this were the case, the children whose parents stay together rather than get a divorce, as opposed to the parents that simply did not even consider divorce, would likely have similar data.
Despite the issues with the sample groups, social learning theorists have concluded that children with parents that have more successful conflict resolution skills and also showed love and respect for one another in front of their kids had more positive and nurturing relationships later in life. In the same theory, those who grow up watching their parents disrespect or fight each other will likely have the same type of issues in their own adult relationships later in life. In a different perspective called the life course perspective, theorists concluded that major life events outside of simply observing their parents can also have a major impact on the adult relationships of a child. This theory notes that childhood is definitely a fundamental time in how the individuals later perceive the world, but childhood orientations are fluid and can be swayed by life transitions, events, and other social institutions.
Towson Divorce Lawyers at Huesman, Jones & Miles, LLC Keep the Interests of the Children in Mind During Divorce Settlements
Whether you choose to stay together or part for the kids, it is important to keep their needs in mind while making decisions. Co-parenting plans and custody agreements can help create a positive post divorce family unit to begin a new chapter of everyone’s lives. At Huesman, Jones & Miles, LLC, our team of Towson divorce lawyers understands how important your family is to you and fight on your behalf. Contact us online or call 443-589-0150.
