Going through a divorce can be a difficult time not only for the couple ending their marriage, but also for the children who are likely experiencing a lot of confusion, uncertainty, and sadness. As parents, it is crucial to put the needs of the children first, and set aside any feelings of anger or bitterness you may have in order to make the process as stress free and friendly as possible. This will help avoid any lasting negative effects the divorce may have on your children.
When it comes time to establish a visitation schedule, parents need to collaborate and come together as a team in order to make the children feel confident, safe, and loved. Long-term negative effects can be prevented if you work together and always remember that your children’s well-being is your top priority.
If you keep the following tips in mind, it is more likely that your visitations will be pleasant interactions for all involved.
- Maintain a positive attitude: When discussing the visitation schedule or parenting time agreement, stay as upbeat and friendly as possible. Communicate with each other about the children’s activities, and keep each other informed about any schedule changes.
- Be on time: Show that you value your time with your children by always being prompt. Spending quality time with your children and showing them that they are your priority will help reinforce to them that they are important to you.
- Do not argue in front of the children: Visitation is not the time to air your frustrations with each other. It is very upsetting for children to watch their parents argue, so either set up a time to address your issues, or consider meeting with a mediator who can help you work through your problems.
- Create a parenting time calendar: Both parents should have a calendar that is specifically for their children’s schedule. This should include when they are with which parent, dinners, overnight visits, vacations, activities, school events, etc. Make sure the calendar is up to date and discuss any changes with your former spouse so that you are both on the same page.
- Respect children’s individuality: Whether it is how they like to dress, or what they like to eat, allow your child to express him or herself without being criticized. Do not impose your preferences on your child or instigate power struggles. Support their choices and make them feel loved and safe.
- Encourage items that bring comfort: Some children have a favorite stuffed animal or a well-loved blanket that brings them comfort. Others find comfort by writing in a journal. Whatever it is, encourage them to bring it with them when transitioning between houses.
- Do not make your child feel bad for missing the other parent: It is normal for a child to miss the other parent during a visitation, especially if the child is young. It may help to draw a picture or write a note together to give to the other parent at the end of the visit.
- Send a surprise package: Sending a surprise care package is a great way to remind your children that you love and miss them, especially when there is an extended period of time between visits.
- Encourage phone calls: Children should always feel that they can call the other parent without being made to feel guilty. This will only demonstrate that you are willing to put your child’s needs before your own.
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