Some couples are able to go through the divorce process and maintain a positive friendly relationship with their ex-spouse. Others experience feelings of anger, resentment, anxiety and frustration. For some, these feelings do not go away once the divorce is complete. In fact, they can linger and even worsen if the issues that are the root of these feelings go unresolved. When children are involved, this can lead to stressful family events if a couple lets their negative feelings towards each other get in the way.
When your child has a special moment in his or her life where you will need to interact with your ex-spouse, there are a few things you can keep in mind that can help make the event less stressful, so you can focus on your child’s special event.
- Try to keep your interactions with your ex-spouse “all business.” If you take some of the emotion out of the equation and think of your ex as a business associate, it may be easier to take the high road and not engage in any negative behavior. It is not always easy, but for the sake of your child, it is a more productive way to interact.
- Maintain respectful and civil communication with your ex. In any relationship, productive, honest communication is important. You know what typically triggers an argument between you and your ex. If you can find a way to get your point across in a civil manner while avoiding a confrontation, the event will be much more enjoyable for everyone. Also, remember that you are together to celebrate your child and his or her accomplishments, not to focus on your issues.
- Your personal life is no longer your former spouse’s business. Now that you are no longer married, you are not obligated to provide information to your ex-spouse about your personal life. Keep all communication with your ex focused on the needs of your child, or important financial transactions and insist that all other topics are off-limits.
- Avoid listening to other people’s opinion about your ex. Friends, family and other acquaintances can be quick to offer their advice and opinions about the behaviors and actions of your ex. While it may be tempting to engage in the conversation, usually it just adds fuel to the fire and makes it that much more difficult to works towards a relationship based on mutual respect. This is also true when it comes to your children. Do not encourage your kids to share information about your former spouse’s personal life. The less you know the better off your relationship will be in the long run.
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