Going through a divorce during the holiday season can be especially difficult. The holidays are about family, but as families adjust to the changes that divorce brings, what used to be enjoyable often becomes emotionally draining. According to Suzy Brown, a divorce recovery author and speaker, if you have the right mindset, you can find joy in every holiday and you can make the holidays more meaningful for you and your family.
Be patient, be flexible, and be simplistic. Following these steps will help you find joy and peace while enduring the adjustments of divorce. Being patient with yourself will allow you to accept the tears. It is important to take the time to remember why you celebrate the holidays.
Being flexible will help you decide which core traditions you want to keep and give you the freedom to create new traditions. The new traditions you create should enhance what is most important to you about the holidays. Being flexible about the dates you celebrate can help reduce holiday stress and give you the opportunity to celebrate in more meaningful ways. Thanksgiving dinner does not have to be on the last Thursday in November. The importance of the holiday is not which day it takes place but the way in which you celebrate the meaning of the day.
Simplifying the holidays will help you focus on the deeper and true meaning of the holidays. Due to the divorce you may have less money, less space and less time due to shared family time with your ex-spouse. Embrace this, and remember that material things are not what the holidays are about. Before you go holiday shopping, create a budget and stick to it. You cannot buy the love or loyalty of others. The best gift you can give is time and attention. Focus on the people in your life and be thankful for them and celebrate them.
Getting through a divorce takes time. Allow the holidays to give you a reason to focus on the truly important things in your life. Finding reasons to celebrate during the holidays will make the holidays more meaningful in the long run.
Baltimore County Divorce Lawyers Helping Residents of Maryland with Family Law Issues
Going through a divorce brings about emotional upheaval for all parties involved. Having a family lawyer in Hunt Valley who is sensitive to your needs and thoughtful about the process will help you move forward. Baltimore County divorce lawyers at Huesman, Jones and Miles, LLC will handle your divorce with care and protect your rights. To speak with one of our experienced Maryland family lawyers contact us online or call us at 443.589.0150 to arrange a free consultation. Our Hunt Valley law offices are easily accessible from all areas throughout Baltimore County, Carroll County, Harford County and Howard County, and we serve clients throughout the communities of Towson, Baltimore, Bel Air, Columbia, Essex and Westminster.